We’re all here to have fun. As a group. Right?
I sometimes wonder if the RPG hobby needs a set of “How to enjoy an rpg, as a group” discussions/hot-to’s/videos, whatever.
“Gather with the people you want to play with in an RPG. See if everyone is interested in having fun, as a group, and assisting others in the group in having fun.
“If one or more players indicate they want to do whatever they want with their character, regardless of how that makes everyone else feel, suggest they are not a good fit for this particular group activity. If you also have a group that hate-watches bad television shows, suggest they join that instead.
“If one or more players indicate they specifically wish to make other players unhappy, preferably driving them to tears and/or screaming, suggest they are also not a good fit for this particular group activity. Agree to meet them separately later.
“If possible, then have their memory wiped of that agreement, your name and address, and the existence of RPGs in general. Everyone else in the hobby will thank you.”